By: Dewi Linggasari
Women comes from the word - masters, means the authorized owner of everything, including gender relations. Authority in gender relations will bring women on any map that get right to exist in all things, so that he will never be left behind. However, what then prevailing? Grief stories seemed endless stories of women, even as time continues to rotate bringing over a decade past the history of the turn of the millennium. Map of women's lives very wide, as wide as the number of land that was submerged in the sea level. However, the progress of the land which was running parallel to the mainland others. When in Continental Europe a daughter of the king's seed, absolutely entitled to the throne without intrigue, then in another hemisphere and the kingdom 's ability to lead a country still questionable. While women are still entangled with domestic tasks - childbirth, breastfeeding and household burden spell no financial reward and that makes her figure never existed in its status as part of the local community. Violence in the household, whether physical, psychological, and economic being bandied about day-to-day results in trauma, bleeding wounds, and even death.
Where actual violence come from? Once upon a time, long before recorded history, the stage of public life simple, each community regulate survival strategies of hunting and gathering. Each group crystallize in the form of a band, a man who has the courage and strength and be able to get more game will be declared a tribal chief or leader of the group. There are also women, especially when in a state of pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding is always in poor physical condition and getting weaker. The work can be completed include planting. Women do not have the nature to be a hunter and head of the tribe, because of his physical strength. Superiority began to emerge which ultimately fatal in gender inequality. Seed patriarchal culture began stocked .As history continues to record the various changes and progress made, women remain a second-class citizen community with the tragic consequences of the tendency of polygamy, violence, and neglect. The story of women in the West Bank, Palestine is a tragedy for the family of a girl who was burned, because it contains outside of marriage, there was the young man, congratulations, because he was born a man. Women in the Middle East silence in sadness, because of justification in polygamy. While the Chinese Emperor - the Son of Heaven, said to have 3,000 concubines. Women referred to the original is the girls who come from poor families without life assurance from both parents. On behalf of the improvement of living standard for all members of the family, they are encouraged to enter the intrigue in the imperial household covered 2,999 concubines envy of others and an empress. Intrigue in the palace often bloody even result in death.
A similar case also occurred in the life of the Turkish Empire that accompanied too many concubines, to split the terrible strife between them.Women new archipelago to participate in the educational process after the struggle for the emancipation by Kartini born on April, 21 st 1879 and lived 25 years after the birth. Approximately a century later, after passing the turn of the millennium, the woman was sworn in as President of the Republic of Indonesia, some seat ministers, vice-chair of the people, also the position of structural, and functional. In Singasari history, about 1,000 years ago, in the land of Java, Ken Dedes - Ardanareswari born, was a woman who was destined to give birth to the kings in Java. Beauty and ambition have pushed for the most violent action for the first and second husband with a cool attitude, he borrowed someone else's hands. So ten fingers stay clean, no blood smudged, there was the throne fell into the hands of his biological children. Destiny for Java Land turn down king has spoken. History must be recorded, but not all women have the same opportunities. While on one hemisphere of a woman wearing a crown has been sitting in power, then in the other hemisphere, women are still chained to the domestic tasks are not able to change the destiny of ourselves and future generations. Physical violence, psychological violence, and neglect brought home lives up to the lowest point which resulted in shattered mentality and physical ability of the next generation. A circular chain issues continue, there is no one way was to get away out, except to break.
Early marriage in certain tribes in principle trigger the beginning of the problems that are too complex to be traced later obtained a solution. Family attitudes in treating any personal figure - between men and women. That girls pressured to work on domestic affairs - go to the market, cooking, washing dishes, floors clothing, taking care of plants, maintaining sister, son free from the said case . While the social environment and the school did a similar pressure . Educational institutions and bureaucratic network is finally open to the process of education and career, but how do not proportionally the number of seats held by women than men. How many seats minister ? How many are held by women ? Or how many women are able to occupy seats in the House? In a patriarchal culture, women are culturally conditioned as a broadcaster, not the subject, defying regarded as a fault or immoral. These conditions permanently inhibit a woman to act as agents. So when the marriage begins, especially in the very early age without mental readiness, physical, and financial, domestic violence happened again. The woman pressed to budge - even budge when the blood started pouring, the violence did not stop until death comes an end toTo cope with these circumstances, a person must think once work hard, devote all abilities build confidence and self-potential, so that the problem can be broken chain. Family as the smallest unit of social life is the most competent in breaking the chain, so that gender equality can be achieved by applying the load and the responsibility of fair and wise to the boys and girls . If the girls had mengerjalan all household affairs , the boys had to do the same , without exception . Similarly in the case of education , a process which should ditempuah and costs to dibarkan between child - men and women alike . People often difficult to accept change , because it is bound by tradition and deeply rooted social views . However, a change in whatever form when positive effect will gradually be accepted with pleasure .BKKBN ( coordination of the national family planning office -- never had a permanent program , is maturing age of marriage , a double strategy in building a family life and gender equality . It's also referred to the agency had not appeared at the local level , but the program can continue, given the very important function in society pengembanngan . Do not ever rush before the wedding , before a result is very bad and can never dobayangkan . Icons marriage is " happy congratulations " , in many cases the opposite is true . Readiness of physical , psychological , and financial support to achieve a very period of the so-called happiness and anticipating violence in the household .Finally there are four things that can support a woman in achieving gender equality , the first impulse of the family , both local culture , government policy third , and fourth abilities of women themselves . Even God will not change the fate of a nation when the people do not intend to change their own destiny . Similarly , God will never change the destiny of a woman unless women change their own destiny .
